Did You Say Something?
I had an opportunity earlier this week to hear Michael Barone speak to a group of Civic and Business leaders at a local university. Mr. Barone is a renowned political analyst, senior writer for the US News & World Report and frequent contributor during Fox News’ election coverage. (Don’t worry, I’m not going to write about politics…this time) He was introduced prior to the speech as “more than just a man saying something, Michael Barone is a man with something to say.” It was such a profound and unusual introduction that I must admit I was distracted for the next hour; admittedly a little envious of the commendation and curious about whether or not the same could be said of me. Am I more than just a man saying something? When I speak, is there sufficient power and influence in my words to change the course of action or repair a broken spirit?
We all know people who are always saying something. We hear them in meetings commenting on every idea and attempting to summarize every thought expressed by others. They are identified by their intolerance for contemplative silence, instead persisting to fill every silent void with empty chatter. At worst, they carelessly allow every thought that pops into their mind to roll off their tongue without regard to how it will be received or how it might hurt others. I must confess that I’ve been guilty of all the above. If there is any hope in one day deserving a reputation of being “a man with something to say,” I should put my speech to the following test:
- Are my words motivated by a desire to speak truth rather than to flatter man?
- Does what I have to say add value or provide instruction or clarity?
- Have I chosen my words carefully to ensure they are received as kind and courteous, even though honest?
- Am I in the presence of someone who could use some encouragement?
- Do I have an opportunity to express thankfulness?
“Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise; When he closes his lips, he is considered prudent.” Proverb 17:28, English Standard Bible
Labels: Christian Living, Leadership
posted by jb at 6:12 PM
2 Comments:
Every so often I have to re-learn that I shouldn't be talking just to fill the silence.
Thanks so much for this insightful article. My idle chatting in the workplace was brought to my attention a couple of years ago. So, I set forth a goal to control my tongue. I would pray before every meeting and before every planned interaction with my peers and superiors that I would stick to business. It worked! However, then I was asked if I was upset or disengaged because I hadn't uttered a word except for the usual business updates and concerns. I laughed. But quickly realized that being a idle talker had become such an identifable trait of mine, that now my audience thought I was dealing with other issues. I explained my goal and chalked it up to progress. For months I had sat through numerous meetings listening to others talk about vacations, or granchildren, etc. and realized these stories took up significant amounts of time and it occured to me how disruptive I had been. I believe the sharing of one's personal life or the sharing of stories is important for a team, but there is a time and place for these interactions to happen....maybe over lunch or away from the office.
The preception of being a talker still haunts me inside and outside of the workplace. Now I pray that preceptions can change.
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